Looking for tips on how to get a girlfriend? Steer away from 90% of the internet! If there’s someone out there promising you instant success with some cheesy strategy that will work with absolutely anyone, they’re lying. You’ve now been warned!
If, on the other hand, you actually want to know how to get a girlfriend, keep reading for a few tips that apply to the real world- not the world of weirdoes who want your money.
How to find a girl in the first place.
In today’s hectic atmosphere, simply finding a place where you might find people you’d be interested in dating can be hard enough. As a society, we’re becoming less social, not more, and you probably want to steer away from the more obvious venues like the office- although some office romances do work out, it’s mostly asking for trouble.
Did you just think ‘but a bar is perfect’ to yourself?
Naughty you! There’s a reason most women refer to bars as feeling like meat markets, and that reason isn’t flattering. We all know there’s the stereotype of learning some suave strategy or other [sold by the same hucksters who claim they can get you picking up girls right and left], sauntering up to some girl and throwing out some devastating one liner. Or worse, trying some weird hypno-thinking or otherwise ridiculous Alpha male ‘technique’ that’s guaranteed to work with every woman ever.
That’s a great way to pick up one night stands- and even then, they probably won’t be interested in the bad pickup lines! Save the dodgy hypnosis and Alpha male rubbish totally, too- very few women will appreciate it, and the one that will probably aren’t long-term relationship material.
There are far better places to meet women then a bar.
And what’s even better, is you’ll have a lot more chance of finding a woman you actually have something in common with, too. Remember, it’s not just about how to get any girlfriend! You’ll find a good few women who appeal to you physically- but that tells you nothing about reality. For all you know, that hot chick is a secret mass murderer with a gun collection out of this world and really poor personal hygiene.
You can approach women anywhere. Just remember a few ground rules.
• Remember women are people just like you- with different personalities, likes etc. That’s why dating ‘strategies’ don’t work- girls aren’t mindless robots who like the same thing.
• Remember lots of women are taught to be safety-cautious all the time, and some have had bad experiences with jerks. Don’t approach them because you want to and think it’s OK- there’s no woman out there who’ll appreciate being approached in a dark parking lot!
• Being polite, friendly, interested and personable will get you way further than anything else.
Pack away the ridiculous strategies about ‘how to get a girlfriend‘, and haul out the best you you can be. In the end, you’ll have far better luck meeting women you like who have personalities compatible with yours- and there’s never any harm in being the guy memorable for being funny, interesting and polite instead of the jerk with the cheesy one liners.